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HEADS UP!
THE HOLIDAYS ARE ON THEIR WAY
Stress is good for you in small doses! In fact, Hans Selye, the original guru of stress research wrote that life without a modicum of stress is actually death! Selye called stress “the spice of life”. So think of that perfect spice you always add to your favorite stew or soup or pasta sauce—in the right “dose” it enhances the flavor and friends ask you for your recipe. Accidentally “over-dose” your recipe w/ way too much of that spice and your friends are pushing their food around on their plates. As a psychotherapist, teacher of adults, mom, gramma, and flesh and blood human being, I both observe and experience that overdoses of stress are pretty darn rampant in our lives as we strive to be the best we can, make livings, and rear the next generation! So just when we acknowledge that we are way too “stressed out” from the get-go, along come those Hallmark Card moments with family, food and festivities—which for many of us resemble not so much the Hallmark Moment as a complete and total disappointment, if not disaster.
And if you, dear reader, really do enjoy Hallmark Holidays, please contact me so I can pass on your secrets to others! For the rest of us, I would enjoy, over the next few weeks, to pass on some “stuff” I have learned from my own experience and certainly from so many others. If it helps you enjoy the upcoming couple of months, if, indeed it helps you actually celebrate your holidays, great! Some of the topics I will write about over the next weeks basically cover the family, food and festivities I just mentioned, such as the following: · Some families make some people crazy, and yet, those people subject themselves to the same crazy-making scenario year after year · I will offer some alternatives and some strategies, including financial concerns, as in how much must you spend, and does incurring debt actually make your family closer · Some folk gain some substantial amounts of weight during the holidays
· I will offer / repeat a lot that you already know about how to avoid such weight gain and also talk about any concerns you may have with alcohol, regarding you or someone else, since alcohol over-indulgence is a not uncommon phenomenon of our holidays · Some folk spend intense amounts of money, time, energy—even personal sacrifice—towards holiday festivities, hoping, wishing, dreaming, that they will bring pleasure to those who are meant to benefit from them, and in the process losing actual moments of connection, love, honesty and sharing · I have some wisdom to pass on about all of this. So please look for more next week and in the weeks to come, and let us make this a genuinely memorable and less stressy, positive holiday.
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