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Question: It seems like my anger is often inappropriate. I don’t mean the way I express my anger; I do communicate that pretty clearly. I mean that anger seems like a strange emotion to be feeling right then.
Answer: You are genuinely “on to something”. Anger is always a secondary or “cover-up” feeling. I am not talking here about “righteous indignation” concerning child or elder abuse, racism or unnecessary war.
I am referring to the emotional reaction of anger when we actually feel fear, or hurt, or threat, or abandonment / rejection, or sadness / grief -- or you come up with your own feeling that is so unpleasant or even unbearable to feel that you whip out anger instead. We all do it. And we all do it so instantaneously that we are completely unaware of the underlying feeling.
Next time your feeling angry does not seem to fit the situation, ask yourself what lies underneath your anger. And please believe that no matter frightening or painful the underlying emotion may seem, you do have the resources to feel it and deal with it. And once again, do not hesitate to ask for help from a professional in either a one – on – one or group setting.
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